Okay. I just saw something that made me so happy that I almost cried. At any rate, I got hella goosebumps. I just saw the trailer for the forthcoming Joel Schumacher film Phantom Of The Opera, in which Phantom is being played by Gerard Butler hotness.

I love and adore Phantom. I think it is the best thing Andrew Lloyd Webber ever did. And right now, I’m very irritated because a while back I broke my disc set of the cast recording. Actually, it was a long time ago and it was sitting on the top of the car and halfway down the road I saw it fall off and onto the pavement to be run over by no less than three cars. I got the “Highlights From POTO” disc, but it isn’t the same as having the entire show with all the spoken dialogue in it. I also also had “The Complete POTO” in hardback, but my Mother conveniently borrowed it from me like 15 years ago and who knows what happened to it.

Who that I know has the original cast recording that I can rip a copy of? Pretty please? With sugar and stuff on top? I really need to hear that and soon. While I really don’t enjoy this kind of thing (musicals, Broadway shows) normally, I love this show so much that I can and will kill and bury the right person just to borrow the disc set for an hour.

No, really.

[EDIT]
All taken care of, a friend of Damien’s has it and is sending it to us soon. Thank you, all!

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An old friend of mine by the name of Ben Coolik has this new project going on. He’s travelling around the country with it. It’s called E.L.I. Nomad and it is apparently the world’s first roaming poet of the Byte Generation.

Occaisionally you can see pictures of Ben here and there, and he’s gotten quite scruffy and nomadic looking himself, a far cry from the little clean cut preppie he was when we used to work in the theatre together on all those shows. Oh, and Maggie says he’s also become a total vegan is extra crunchy.

You go, Ben - I’m proud of you, man!

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No, the cookbook website is not completed.
No, I don’t have the time it would take to finish it.
No, I don’t know when I’ll have the time to add more recipes.
Yes, I have uploaded what I have thus far.
Behold, I give you:
My Online Cookbook
Enjoy.

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Please, DO NOT under any circumstances discuss anything trivial with today, as I cannot hold him accountable for anything that might happen to you as a result. For reference, I cite this. Seriously, he’s not like this often and with a shortage of Manpons™ these days, he’s pretty darned dangerous. Consider this: it’s always that mild mannered office worker that kinda scares the bejeezus out of everyone, and in the right (or wrong, depending on how you look at it) set of circumstances, the whole world is a disgruntled man’s office.

I’m just sayin’…

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Yesterday morning I went to Tarah’s parent’s house to spend some time with her and the family. She wanted me to help her write her mother’s obituary, which we did while also going through about 10,000 pictures with her stepfather and little sisters. We drove downtown to the Ledger to turn in the obituary and have them scan in the picture of Lynn to appear in the paper alongside it, and to allow her the opportunity to get out of the house for a bit. After we finished up at the paper, we wandered around downtown for a bit so she could see how much it had changed and pass the time. Around 2:30 or so we made our way back to the house, where we found out more news about Lynn that go along with her final wishes.

To know Lynn Slaker, you would have had to know that her life was all about service to her children and the community at large. She was very active in the PTA and the clothing bank, she was on the Library board, and spent a lot of her time and energy working for the benefit of others. She was all about giving, it was her nature. Lynn felt that all children were her children, which is partly why there were so many around her all the time. It was one of the things we all loved most about her. We spent the rest of the afternoon planning for the memorial service this evening.

Lynn did not want a funeral. She, like her husband Chuck, and not unlike myself, feel that putting a family through the misery and torture of a funeral home is completely unnecessary. She wanted a memorial service and she wanted to donate her body to research. The Medical College of Georgia is taking her body. They will use it for a year, possibly a little longer. Chuck explained to Tarah, the children, and I that he was concerned about what will happen to her body after this time passes, so he asked the head of the research program about it. The man explained that there is an onsite crematory, as they do not trust outside services for the people they use. After her time is spent there, she will be cremated and her remains sent to Chuck in an urn. Sitting at the family’s table, Chuck held Tarah’s hand and through sobs explained “See? Mama gets to give for another year and then she’s coming home.” Despite all of our aches and tears, this was happy news - if for no other reason because it is exactly as Lynn would want it to be.

The PTA has set up a memorial fund in her name for the children and any medical bills incurred, which are substantial. They are also voting on an annual student award in her name, which I think would make her very proud. I find it very indicative of Lynn and her ability to affect change and make a difference that even in death, she continues to give in more ways than one. There is a story in this morning’s paper about her, and her memorial service is this 7PM this evening at St. Mark’s church. Her 17 year old daughter Merideth, the 4th of her 6 children, will be singing Sarah McLachlan’s “I Will Remember You” in honor of her mother. I wished we all had as much resilience and strength as Lynn’s children have, perhaps her greatest legacy to them. Chuck, the children and I are going to scan and print out some of the pictures of Lynn for the service later this morning.


Chuck and I agreed that of all the pictures, this one was our favorite. It shows her just as we choose to remember her, loving the kids.

Thank you all on behalf of the family for all of the well wishing and energy, it is greatly appreciated.

Lynn, I love and miss you and am grateful for all of the love you’ve given me in return over the years. A significant part of who I am comes from your examples, I am honored to have always been considered a part of your family, and will do my best to keep them as I
do my own.

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Yesterday while in Atlanta I got a call on from Christi on the cellphone. “Tarah just called me, she’s flying into Atlanta at 12:50 on Air Tran. Lynn is on life support, I don’t know for how long now, but they’ve decided that it’s time. I know you’re there, and I’m on my way up to the airport in just a few minutes.” All I remember saying is “I’ll meet you in the same place at the airport terminal.” I walked into Brian’s apartment and sat down, Damien asked me what we needed to do and I told him I wasn’t sure just yet. I felt like I’d just gotten the shit kicked out of me.

Tarah got off the plane all smiles and open arms, just to prove to us that she was okay. Like there was even a question, it is her way. She will process this in her own time, but for now there’s work to be done. After we hugged our hellos and introduced her to Damien, we started walking towards the train station. I reached for her hand and once she took it and held it she began to explain what she knew up until that point. Christi and I listened as she recounted what happened, and we got on the train. After a short train ride, Damien & I got the two of them to the exit in the station, and I told Tarah I’d see her at home either this evening or tomorrow.

I got down to the platform waiting on the train and thought aloud that I did good, I didn’t cry in front of her. I started remembering something Lynn said to me years ago while I was either visiting their house or picking Tarah up to go who knows where, probably somewhere we never should have been. I called out to Tarah (whose name I’ve always pronounced “Terrah’) to hurry the hell up, when Lynn called out to her as well, pronouncing her name different altogether. She called her “Taaarah”, with an A sound like when you stick your tongue out for the doctor. I looked at her and said “Gone With The Wind?” Lynn just looked back at me with her sweet face, seldom without a smile, and grinned at me. Now that I think about it, in all the years I’ve known her I can seldom remember Lynn ever speaking anything without a smile on her face while she was doing it.

Tarah called me close to 10:30 last night. “Hey darlin’, it’s Tarah. I just wanted to let you know that she’s gone…” We talked for about 20 minutes or so, and I told her to get some rest and that I’d talk to/see her tomorrow.

I’m about to get a shower and head over to the house. Send us all good energy today, please.

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It’s going to be a relatively quiet day, and I’m determined that were going to get a lot done today. All three children are finishing up showers, getting dressed, packed up for the weekend, and ready to play inside. Maggie is coming home at 2 to get the kids and leave for Tampa. She’s taking Haley and Cole to Busch Gardens until Monday. Avery is staying home with Nathan. Damien and I are heading up to Atlanta, and will be back sometime Sunday.

I’ve got household stuff to do today before I leave the house this evening, because I cannot stand the idea of leaving the house dirty. So it will be clean before I walk out the door this evening. I slept pretty damned good last night, so I’m all caffeinated now and ready to go.

and , check your email please. If you didn’t get the stuff I sent, let me know what addy to use and I’ll resend.

Good energy, love, and respect to , , and , for reasons I’m sure of which they’re aware. No fanfare, just know I’m thinking of you.

To my sweet , no matter where you are or how far away it seems, I’m right where you leave me each and every time, and I’m not going anywhere you can’t ever find me.

Be well, everyone.

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I’m about to fall asleep, I just felt like marking this occaision by sharing that I hope everyone I know feels as good and content as I do right now. For no reason, which is the best reason of all.

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Also starting on November 7, 2002, the team began discussing the current state of what was and was not a violation. This conversation will eventually lead to some drastic shifts in policy over the next several months. One key element of this discussion is that the team began requiring users to submit specific links, rather than links to whole journals. The team also began to discuss whether a username should be a violation or not, as well as the concept of investigating entire situations as opposed to specific links. This discussion continued over the next several days.

On November 13, 2002, Sherm clarified policy regarding offsite material — namely, that we don’t take action on it.

On November 14, 2002, Sherm made a post that highlighted a problem that still persists — claiming requests and letting them sit. Jill attempted a policy change on November 28 regarding “mark-and-leave”.

The project to fix up the stock answers — the answers that are, as of this writing, present in the community dated February 7, 1990 — began with a call for opinions on November 20, 2002.

Starting on December 8, 2002, users who failed to provide links were asked to do so in a new request. This was because at the time there were no tools to insert or remove requests from queue, and it was difficult to track responses back.

It isn’t posted anywhere in the lj_abuse community, but on January 1, 2003, Rahaeli began working as an employee of LiveJournal.

On January 4, 2003, Jill posted the then-current version of the policy document.

On January 19, 2003, the first stirrings of what would eventually become the quota system was posted, to address the problem of even distribution of work.

On January 21, 2003, Jill decided that she was stepping down as manager of the team, and Malerin also stepped down as assistant manager. (Due to the vagaries of timezones, Malerin’s resignation post was actually posted before Jill’s.) Rahaeli stepped in as manager of the team, with assistance from Jesse when needed.

Over the next few weeks, a number of policy shifts happened — both procedural and how to handle specific requests. The quota system went through another revision, and then a few days later another. The quota system was finalized on February 1, 2003 — and oh, how low the numbers look now …

The guidelines for invasion of privacy were changed on January 23.

On January 31, 2003, the list of summary change abbreviations, which people had begun using while changing subjects, was clarified.

On February 4, 2003, the policy regarding kiddie porn (posted by users themselves) was clarified.

Starting on February 22, 2003, a 24 hour claim time was strictly spelled out as p
olicy, and a distinction was introduced in the subject marking code between “request that someone has claimed” and “followup request for someone who needs to see it”.

On February 26, 2003, the policies for marking requests closable (ie, not until user has complied) and how to answer requests that result in a suspension were clarified.

A number of policies were clarified on March 9, 2003, including phone numbers, spam, emails to suspended users, posting of abuse team email, and unsuspensions until compliance. The policies on invasion of privacy are brought up for further discussion on March 11.

On March 26, 2003, Rahaeli was provided with a zipfile of all abuse cases for search purposes. It’s only up-to-date until that date, but it can occasionally be useful for older things that weren’t written up in the community.

On March 27, 2003, the first revision of the ultimate abuse policy document was posted. It would sit, untouched and unloved, for over a year, gathering dust and un-updated, amended only by lj_abuse posts.

On April 2, 2003, Rahaeli posted an advice to new members thread, which contains many observations that are still valuable.

On April 12, 2003, the abuse team was invited to a barbecue. (Included for the amusement factor.)

On April 16, 2003, the thirty day suspension was removed, to be replaced by a concept known as “suspend until comply”, where a user is unsuspended immediately upon being willing to delete violating material.

On April 24, 2003, with workload still increasing, the concept of monthly assistant manager started.

On May 20, 2003, a code push broke minsecurity, thus causing some posts to lj_abuse to be public. Oops. Jesse suspended the community temporarily until it could get fixed. (That code upgrade made for some interesting bugs.)

On May 27, 2003, and subsequent days, a number of requests (which is why they’re not linked) were opened about a community adding members — an unwanted-friending situation with a twist. This has since been disabled, so it’s not added into the policy documents, but it’s a good example of how Abuse deals with a write-in situation.

Suspensions broke briefly on May 28, 2003. They were, thankfully, fixed quickly.

On May 29, 2003, the importance of reading carefully when changing summaries — still an issue — was emphasized.

On June 1, 2003, Solcita (a 911 dispatcher) posted information about how to make a call on a suicide threat.

On June 19, 2003, a post was made regarding the policy about not marking requests from support volunteers with your number. (They keep trying to figure out what our subject changing code is.)

On July 6, 2003, a policy regarding putting user numbers in suspend commands was developed.

On July 13, 2003, the team began discussions regarding eliminating the second email warning before suspension, since policiy changed to be “suspend until writein”. This was set in place on July 14, 2004.

On July 18, 2003, a FAQ regarding account trading was added.

On July 30, 2003, policy regarding timezones was posted. Abuse correspondence is in EST/EDT for historical reasons, mostly, but we’ve never changed it.

Also on July 30, policy regarding security of Abuse team member accounts was re-stated.

August of 2003 was mostly uneventful (aside from a steadily-increasing number of requests), as was September of 2003. In fact, the board was being so well-handled that on September 18, 2003, requests were being handled within approximately 24 hours — to the point where policy had to be implemented stating that requests should only be marked if you were planning on doing them immediately.

On September 22, 2003, Bubba reminded team members that it’s possible to shorten subject lines in writeups.

On September 25, 2003, after a massive situation involving celebrity RP journals, a policy of suspend on sight was implemented. (It’s since been overturned.) See the Celebrity Impersonation Journals section of document 05_abuse_historical_precedents.txt.

On October 10, 2003, markf joined rahaeli as co-manager of the team.

On November 14, a few minor policy clarifications were posted.

The privacy notice was removed from the email center on November 19, and a list of plans for improvements posted. Some of these have been implemented; some haven’t.

On November 29, the Abuse board reached 0 green, which is always impressive when it happens.

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Quick post while I’m on a break from reading

I’m sitting here reading away, horrified as usual about some people’s stupidity and even more by their bad taste, when Nathan comes into my room with a venti coffee from Starbuck’s. I love my Nathan…

Apologies to , , and for taking so long to get where I want to be on the team, I’m really trying to get there. Slowly but surely, I’ll make it. My mIRC client is the Devil, to the extent that the Fundies would have me believe, so I’ve had a hard time popping in to say hello and ask questions, of which I have plenty. Oh, and , this icon’s for you…

Happy Anniversary and much love to Mr. and Mr. Bessie!! You’re both wonderful and have my love, respect, and best energy - hope your day is the best! And smooches to because, well, she rocks balls and I want to send her cyber smooches. The Tigger™ kind, extra slobbery with a side of pounce. rrrraaawwwrrrr!

Thanks again to for the visit the other day, that was very special to me and I enjoyed it immensely. …coughcoughGARLIC!!cough… ::ducks::

Back to my regularly scheduled training, SEND ME GOOD ENERGY!!

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